In our Mindset and body coaching program we talk about the importance of loving and accepting oneself.
And during our weekly coaching calls, I have noticed that this is quite a big issue for most of our clients.
Loving ourselves can be perceived as vain, arrogant or that we are full of ourselves.
But when we don’t take care of ourselves, the media is quick to remind us what we should look like.
So, no wonder that this is something a lot of people struggle with.
And that is why I decided to do write this blog today and show you 4 simple steps to love your body.
When I look back at my relationship with my body whether I was 10 kilos heavier or 10 kilos lighter, I was never happy.
When I was anorexic, my hip bones were protruding and all I could think about was wishing I could cut them off so I could have no hips like the other skinny girls.
Other than my hips, I also didn’t like my big nose, my teeth and I thought my eyes were too close together.
Then when I gained 20 kilos when I had bulimia, I hated myself even more.
As I kept losing and gaining a lot of weight, I could never look in the mirror and just accept what I saw.
But after implementing these steps I was able to turn this around and develop a healthy relationship with my body once and for all.
Step #1 Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
The images we see on social media, magazines and on tv are a very small percentage of what people actually look like.
Yet we have this tendency to compare ourselves with that, rather than the 95% of the population that looks nothing like it.
Did you ever walk down a busy street and thought about comparing yourself to an average person?
If you are reading this blog, then probably not.
But if you would, I am pretty sure that you would notice, that you are doing just as well or better than most people.
But we always want what we don’t have.
If we have straight hair, we want curly hair and if we have curly hair, we want straight hair.
If we are short, we want to be tall and if we are tall, we want to be short.
There are things that you might be able to change and then there are things you cannot change.
And the sooner you understand and accept it, the sooner you can start loving your body and life.
Step #2 Treat Your Body Like Your Child
Just imagine, how would your child respond, if you didn’t accept it and love it unconditionally?
Or how would it respond if you would criticize it constantly and focused on all the things that are wrong with it?
Your child would most likely feel sad, unwanted and unloved.
It would probably feel unmotivated, tired and wanting to rebel and misbehave.
And now imagine how would your body respond, if you would love it unconditionally with compassion and without judgment?
Do you think it would be motivated to do better or worse?
With all the criticism and judgment, your body is probably thinking:
“What’s the point of trying if nobody loves me anyway?”
So, love and accept your body like you love your child to motivate it to do better and to work with you in partnership.
Step #3 Develop A Healthy Relationship With Your Body Through Loving Action & Acceptance
If saying that you love your body is challenging, then start with loving action.
Nourish your body with nutritious food that will leave you feeling energized.
Honor your body with nurture and care.
You can do this by being active, getting enough sleep, staying hydrated or by getting a massage or having a bath.
Show your body compassion and accept it as it is right now even if you are not in good shape.
Accepting yourself as you are at this moment, doesn’t mean that you are giving up on achieving your goals.
It means looking at yourself objectively and understanding there is no wrong way to have a body.
It means accepting without judgment that all your actions up until now have resulted in the state you are in.
All the extreme dieting then overindulging and the extreme exercising or doing absolutely nothing led you to where you are right now.
And then celebrate the fact that today is the day that you will do things differently.
That from now on you will stop criticizing, blaming, shaming and punishing yourself for the choices you made because you didn’t know any better.
You will stop starving yourself or overindulging and you will start doing things you love.
And by nourishing, nurturing, accepting and loving your body, your body will respond by getting in better shape effortlessly.
Work with your body instead of against it and you will be amazed how easy it will be to feel good in your skin.
Just remember, if you cannot see the beauty in you now, you will definitely not see it when you are slimmer either.
You will always find something that will bother you because nobody is perfect.
We are all unique in our own way with our big hips, big bottoms and big noses and that is how we stand out.
This is what makes you, you.
Embrace the difference with the imperfections so you can create a healthy relationship with your body.
Step #4 Be Grateful For The Body That Gave You Children
Shift your focus on what you are grateful for and what you are proud of.
There are over 6 million women in the United States that cannot have children.
Take a moment to show daily gratitude, that your body has delivered a child that you can love.
Be grateful for the fact that you have legs that can take you to places and dance to your favorite music.
That you have arms that you can cuddle your children with.
Be grateful that you can see them with your eyes and listen to them laugh with your ears.
“It is not happiness that brings us gratitude, it is gratitude that brings us happiness.”
A loving relationship with your body starts with new thoughts and actions.
When unhelpful thoughts pop up again, just throw them in imaginary trash.
And replace them with helpful ones that will get you in a place of peace, balance and freedom.
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Thank you so much for reading today’s blog, until next time.
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