Mindset and body coaching to overcome emotional eating
Hi, super mums. Lucia Veracruz here, and welcome to Week 4 Lesson 10 of our Mindset and Body coaching program. Today we will talk about Mental feedback loops and The science of consciousness.
Last week, we covered a lot of information about living in denial, pain, the laws of the universe, how do we make decisions and form beliefs, the two system we use to process information and the importance of resolving conflict within society and accepting both sides of society in order to regulate our emotions, create balance and peace of mind.
Today I want to explain how your thinking can help you grow into anything you want exponentially but it can also bring you down until all you see is “darkness” and the science behind our consciousness.
What we cover today summary:
- Mental feedback loops
- The science of consciousness
Mental feedback loops
By truly understanding and using mental feedback loops you will be able to change yourself, your situation, your behaviors and your actions in a profound way and achieve massive outcomes.
Mental feedback loops can become your best friend or your worst enemy if you don’t catch your thoughts and change them for your benefit.
The reason why most people struggle in life and only a very small % are good at something, whether it’s their health, business or other successes is that most people have no idea what feedback loops are.
A feedback loop is when the effect from a cause feeds back in and creates another cause, and it keeps feeding back on itself in a circular loop.
For example when you create a cause= binge then you feel guilty and depressed= effect, which then leads to another cause= binge which then creates another effect= feeling guilty and depressed in a circular loop.
And unless you break that cycle, it will go exponentially up or exponentially down depending on if the feedback is positive or negative.
Meaning that things will get a lot worse or a lot better over time as this loop feeds on itself.
When this happens, it’s like a never-ending self-fulfilling cycle feeding on itself and growing.
So you must be careful with what you do with the thoughts that come into your head= the cause in order to get the effect you want.
The more you think about a particular thing, the harder it will be to stop thinking about it until that thought becomes your reality.
When a thought comes that is negative or doesn’t serve you well, throw it in the trash, so it doesn’t feed the self-fulfilling cycle in your feedback loop.
It’s like if I was to tell you, that no matter what, do not to think about your favorite ice cream, you couldn’t help yourself but think about ice cream.
That is also why dieting and restrictions are not good.
It would be the same as going on a very strict diet, where you are not allowed to eat any sugar or carbs and then all you could think about, would be sugar and carbs.
So, this is how the human mind works:
What we think ends up being what we think about and then what we are thinking about is what we end up thinking because of the Mental feedback loops.
One little negative thought (I “broke” my diet, so now I might as well just keep eating) feeding itself in the mental feedback loop gets worse and worse over time which can lead to obesity or a full-blown eating disorder for years to come (which is what has happened to me).
Our thinking with the actions that go with it will create our ultimate reality regardless of it being true or not.
When we choose positive thoughts, then we will take positive action and start to see some results, which will then create more positive thoughts, and lead to more positive action and even better results and so on…
But once we let the negative thoughts take over, then we will take less action, get worse results, which will then create more negative thoughts, and lead to even less action and even worse results and so on…
The good news is that the same way as it rapidly gets out of control to the point of depression and desperation, it can get better too in a very short period of time and create a positive change exponentially.
Deliberate conscious practice of throwing out the thoughts that don’t serve us will become automated as the new positive thoughts replace them and start feeding our positive mental feedback loops.
The science of consciousness
Becoming an unemotional observer of myself, looking at a big picture rather than focusing on what was wrong with me, and throwing the negative thoughts in the trash led me to some interesting discoveries thanks to which I was able to take back control once and for all.
I have noticed that during my struggles with food and depression, the world around me was somehow in sync with what was going on in my head.
So when things were bad with my eating and in my head, then some other areas of my life would be affected too even if they were not connected.
For example, suddenly my clients would have a hard time in their lives (relationship issues, illness, financial struggles) which had technically nothing to do with me.
And when I was feeling well, suddenly my clients would do really well in their personal life (getting married, having a baby or getting a promotion).
It’s like when I was happy, the whole world around me was happy too and when I was unhappy, the whole world around me would be unhappy too.
During my search of achieving ultimate balance and happiness, I came across a book called Quantum healing from Deepak Chopra.
The book was fascinating but I wasn’t sure if I quite grasped the concept then until years later when Quantum physics came up again in my research.
And here is what I have learned:
Everything in the universe is connected on a microscopic level including our thoughts.
Have you ever noticed when you are thinking about a person then they would call you out of the blue?
Or have you ever been in a room full of people and when someone new entered the room, the “vibe” changed?
Some people may call it coincidence or luck but the reality is that we are all connected to one another.
And in case you are wondering, what has this got to do with our mindset and emotional eating?
Let me explain…
Classical physics and quantum physics
There are two types of science called quantum physics and classical physics.
Most people are aware of classical physics as that is what is taught at schools.
Classical physics focuses on a study and understanding of the material world (things) and everything we can see and touch like a chair, a person, a house, etc.
Classical physics says the material things are separate and have nothing to do with each other. A chair is a chair and a person is a person and they are definitely not connected in any way.
Quantum physics focuses on a study of particles which are discrete packets of energy constantly spinning around with waver-like properties found in everything (matter, living creatures and light).
But here’s a big conflict between the two sciences.
In classical physics, our eyes see things as solid and objective (unchangeable). We can go away, come back, and whatever we have observed it will still be there.
E.g. If you go to work and come back, the chair, the table, the computer, everything will be in its place.
But in quantum physics, particles move from one place to another and when we go away and come back (when we don’t observe), the particles move.
But interestingly enough the “change” only happens when we don’t observe something.
So when we don’t watch, some particles ping away, and new particles join in and then things change.
But when we observe or even just plan to observe something, the quantum particles appear fixed assuming a definite position and nothing changes.
It is as if the particles “know” not to move not just when we are observing, but also when we are planning to observe and measure after.
This “observer effect” undermines the basic assumption of Classical physics: that there is an objective world out there, irrespective of us.
If the way the world behaves depends on our observation, then what does “reality” really mean?
Some physicists think that quantum theory might be needed to fully understand how the brain works.
To this day, physicists don’t agree on the best way to interpret these quantum experiments but it is hard to avoid the implication that consciousness and quantum mechanics are linked.
And further, it turns out that particles are not only extremely interrelated even if they come from two places that have nothing to do with each other but they also have feedback loops the same as our thoughts!
Same as people are drawn to more people, more particles are drawn to other particles.
For example if one person starts running looking behind, suddenly more people will be looking behind and also start running or if one person starts dancing, more people start dancing or if people start leaving a restaurant, more people start leaving a restaurant, if people watch a YouTube video that has lots of views, more people will watch that video…
So when new particles join others they keep feeding the cycle until there is a massive self-fulfilling feedback loop causing things to change.
Have you ever heard of people who were able to heal their terminal cancer despite the doctors being convinced that they didn’t have much time left to live?
The doctors can’t explain how it is possible, because based on traditional science, the cancer cells don’t just randomly disappear or stop growing without any treatment…
On the contrary in most cases, death is inevitable.
But by changing our mindset, beliefs and thinking, we can influence the particles moving towards or away from our body (causing a certain death or making cancer cells completely disappear).
When I read about this the first time, I was certain that I could never do this if I had cancer since my mind was chaotic filled with doubt and negative thoughts.
I thought only a special type of personality (positive, balanced, happy with a strong will power) would be able to do this.
I was definitely not in tune with my mind or body and I had no control over my emotions and the actions that were a result of my extreme emotions.
But the reason I believed that was because, despite my best efforts, I kept failing and I remained a prisoner of my mind thinking that there was nothing I could do to regain control and change because this was just the way I was.
Now I know that I created that reality by my thinking and beliefs.
What I needed to do was to focus on exercising my positive mindset at a present moment (one step at a time) which would then lead me to ultimate freedom from food.
I think I always had these high expectations of myself (aiming for perfection) and when I couldn’t reach them, it would be followed by huge disappointments and negative mindset that would keep feeding my feedback loop attracting more of the wrong kind of thoughts and then actions.
Now going back to Quantum particles…
Another interesting discovery was that not only that these particles constantly move and change but they are also entangled with the opposites of each other even at vast distances (no matter how far they are from each other) which is called quantum entanglement.
When actions are performed on one of the particles, corresponding changes are observed on the other simultaneously (faster than the speed of light).
So if one’s facing up (spin up), then the other one’s always facing down (spin down). One can’t go up without the other being down.
And here is how this is related to our mind and consciousness.
Our consciousness exists in a field surrounding the brain.
This field shares information with the brain through quantum entanglement.
This would allow a fast exchange of information between consciousness and the brain which can’t be explained with classical physics.
The entanglement of particles on the opposite spectrum can also explain how the past can affect the future.
The way we believe we were in the past (at the present moment) is how we’re going to be in the future (the opposite spectrum of the past).
So if we think negatively about our past (at the present moment), then that same thing is going to show up in our future.
But if we throw our negative thoughts in the trash and create positive thoughts about our past, then they will automatically create a positive future (just like when one particle spins up the other one will automatically spin down).
For example, rather than dwelling on all the bad things that happened in the past, I would say:
“I am glad I had a challenging life at such young age because thanks to that I have gained a lot of wisdom, experience and motivation which allowed me to help others to have a balanced and happy life.”
Most people are stuck with who they are, based on past memories they’re too afraid to make any sort of changes or take any action to create the future that they want because their past is dictating their future.
The more you live in the past, with negative emotions and thoughts, the more negative feedback you’ll have until it starts amplifying and becoming your future.
The real, correct place to live is right here in the now.
“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery and today is a gift. That is why we call it the Present.”
What you want to do is to have a small thought of the future, and a small thought of the past.
You want to think into the future so you can design the life you want but don’t live in it, come back and enjoy the present moment.
And you can think of some pleasant memories from the past that make you feel good but don’t live in it, come back and enjoy the present moment.
If you do that, then you will gain control of the present and achieve what you ultimately want to achieve.
However, if you go out too far into the past or the future and you linger there a bit too long, you will lose control of the present.
So here is how you put all these strategies together:
Start observing your thoughts instead of suppressing or ignoring them, live in the “now” not in the past or in the future and at a moment a bad thought comes, catch it and ask yourself:
“Is this thought productive or destructive?”
If it’s not productive or useful, just like when you search for something on your computer and you don’t want it, it goes to “trash”.
Then you get feedback (effect) and based on that feedback you take action next time which then feeds back in a self-fulfilling cycle.
If a thought comes: “I feel like having a piece of chocolate cake.”
Then the question you need to ask yourself: “Is it going to satisfy me if I just have one piece?”
If not, you throw the thought (and the cake if you must) in the trash and choose something else that will satisfy you.
If one piece of cake will satisfy you, then have it and feed your positive feedback loop by saying:
“Wow, I did it! I only had a piece of cake instead of the whole cake, I am gaining some control!”
This positive reinforcement will come back with more positive thoughts next time as you build momentum.
And if you think it will satisfy you, but after the first piece you have a strong desire to have another piece, then try and be mindful about what emotions are you feeling.
See if you can be objective, use your reasonable brain to manage your emotions and wait for the urges to pass to feed your positive feedback loop.
If you give in, celebrate the fact that you were able to delay and practice mindfulness, that you didn’t eat the whole cake and half of the pantry like you used to and think about:
“What can I do next time to help me make a better choice?” or
“How else can I manage my emotions instead of overeating?” or
“Would I have felt more satisfied if I added some fruit, yoghurt and seeds next time?” or
“What other treat can I have next time that will satisfy me?”
No hard feelings, no guilt, no punishment, no excessive exercising or dieting, just moving on…
The more often you think positively and make better choices, the better you feel and the better you feel, then you’ll think more positively and make better choices.
That is why it is super important to celebrate and acknowledge every little win so it will exponentially grow and affect each win, coming after that.
And at the start, you might still fall for temptation and have some things that you wish you didn’t, but eventually, as your confidence grows with your positive mindset, you will be able to achieve balance and control.
And that is how you change yourself.
And in our next lesson, we will learn how to Design your dreams and goals and Develop your new identity.
Thank you for completing this lesson, don’t forget to do your Homework and especially to take action.