Mindset and body coaching to overcome emotional eating
Hi, everyone. Lucia Veracruz here, and welcome to Lesson 11. Today we will talk about Designing your dreams and goals and Developing your new identity.
In our last lesson, we discovered Mental feedback loops which can drive us in the right direction or the wrong one if we don’t stop ourselves and about the Science of consciousness, Quantum physics and how everything is connected to everything and the reality may not be what it seems.
What we cover today summary:
- Designing your dreams and goals
- Developing your new identity
It’s important to understand that if you try and achieve your goals as the person who you are right now (or the person you were before you started the program), you will face a lot of resistance, conflict and pain.
We are going to plan and design your dreams and set your goals in detail so we know what direction you want to go in.
And then we are going to talk about the new identity that you need to become in order to achieve your dreams.
Designing your dreams and goals
Every year I take time to set some new goals and if I forget to do it, I have noticed that I start drifting in an unknown direction.
I would be just living life day to day without really heading anywhere and as a mum that is very easy to do because my mind is constantly filled with hundreds of tasks what the kids, husband, work, friends, family need and want.
So after looking after everybody else’s needs, we need to take time to set some goals for ourselves to gain some stimulation, direction and purpose other than raising our wonderful children.
And if you have never done it before then here is a formula for designing a dream with some questions you can ask yourself to help you put it on paper.
Dream- Define- Declare- Daily actions- Deliver
Make sure you do this right now, take time to write down every detail because this will completely change your life!
- What is your dream? What do you really want? How do you want to look and feel? Where do you want to live? How do you want to spend your time? Make this as detailed as possible.
- Define your dream. What do you want to do each day? Describe it from morning to night. What will you eat? How is your physique? What clothes will you wear? The more detail, the better.
- Declare your dream. Now, declare your dreams to your husband, or your partner, family and friends. The more you tell people the more likely you will do it.
- Then decide what you are going to do. What is your plan? How will your lifestyle change? What will be your daily habits? Be specific.
- Daily actions. Take it from the big picture, the one-year goal, and break it down into months and then into weeks, and then into days and write down your daily action plan.
Once you have it all written down, then all there is to do is take little steps every day towards achieving your goals.
I have done this countless times and with work and taking action I have achieved them all!
Developing your new identity
Like I have mentioned before in order to achieve your dreams, you will need to become the person who can do it.
And the first thing to do in order to create your new identity is to define your current one.
You will need to be completely honest with yourself in order to reveal all the thoughts and beliefs your current character has.
Answer these questions to identify who you are right now.
The only way to achieve your dreams is by becoming a new identity which will have the motivation, drive and desire to maintain a healthy lifestyle free of self- sabotage.
When I look back at myself how I was 5, 10, 20, 30 years ago, it feels like I don’t even know who that person was…
In my almost 40 years of life, I went through several major transformations every few years.
I don’t think I was aware of that change that much… all I knew was, that whatever I was doing at a time, it didn’t work for me, so I had to change.
I needed to feel worthy so that I could start treating myself better. I needed the ability to feel balanced so I could control myself and stop the self-sabotage.
And every time my new identity doesn’t serve me or if it’s holding me back in any way, I just create a new one.
The gap between your current situation and your dream life is probably quite big but it won’t be once you become the type of person who can achieve those dreams with ease.
Answer these questions right now to define the new identity which you want to become:
When you grow into this new person, achieving your dreams will not be a dream anymore.
It will be the lowest standard for this new person.
And that is how you close the gap between the person you are right now and the person you want to become with your dreams.
The difference is that this time your observer (logical brain) will be in charge of your actions instead of your old character (automated irrational brain).
Once you become this new identity, all the things that seem difficult and painful right now will become your new daily automated habits that you will enjoy because they will be effortless.
And in our next lesson, we will go through how to Design your future and how to get rid of your old identity (that doesn’t serve you) for good.
Thank you for completing this lesson, don’t forget to do your Homework and implement what you have learned today.