Mindset and body coaching to overcome emotional eating

Lesson 11

Hi, everyone. Lucia Veracruz here, and welcome to Lesson 11. Today we will talk about Designing your dreams and goals and Developing your new identity.

In our last lesson, we discovered Mental feedback loops which can drive us in the right direction or the wrong one if we don’t stop ourselves and about the Science of consciousness, Quantum physics and how everything is connected to everything and the reality may not be what it seems.

What we cover today summary:

  1. Designing your dreams and goals
  2. Developing your new identity

It’s important to understand that if you try and achieve your goals as the person who you are right now (or the person you were before you started the program), you will face a lot of resistance, conflict and pain.

We are going to plan and design your dreams and set your goals in detail so we know what direction you want to go in.

And then we are going to talk about the new identity that you need to become in order to achieve your dreams.

Designing your dreams and goals

Every year I take time to set some new goals and if I forget to do it, I have noticed that I start drifting in an unknown direction.

I would be just living life day to day without really heading anywhere and as a mum that is very easy to do because my mind is constantly filled with hundreds of tasks what the kids, husband, work, friends, family need and want.

So after looking after everybody else’s needs, we need to take time to set some goals for ourselves to gain some stimulation, direction and purpose other than raising our wonderful children.

And if you have never done it before then here is a formula for designing a dream with some questions you can ask yourself to help you put it on paper.

Dream- Define- Declare- Daily actions- Deliver

Make sure you do this right now, take time to write down every detail because this will completely change your life!

  1. What is your dream? What do you really want? How do you want to look and feel? Where do you want to live? How do you want to spend your time? Make this as detailed as possible.
  2. Define your dream. What do you want to do each day? Describe it from morning to night. What will you eat? How is your physique? What clothes will you wear? The more detail, the better.
  3. Declare your dream. Now, declare your dreams to your husband, or your partner, family and friends. The more you tell people the more likely you will do it.
  4. Then decide what you are going to do. What is your plan? How will your lifestyle change? What will be your daily habits? Be specific.
  5. Daily actions. Take it from the big picture, the one-year goal, and break it down into months and then into weeks, and then into days and write down your daily action plan.

Once you have it all written down, then all there is to do is take little steps every day towards achieving your goals.

I have done this countless times and with work and taking action I have achieved them all!

Developing your new identity

Like I have mentioned before in order to achieve your dreams, you will need to become the person who can do it.

And the first thing to do in order to create your new identity is to define your current one.

You will need to be completely honest with yourself in order to reveal all the thoughts and beliefs your current character has.

Answer these questions to identify who you are right now.

Welcome to your Defining current self worksheet

Your full name
1. How would you describe yourself right now in a couple of sentences?
2. What do you look like?
3. What are your good and bad habits?
4. What are your strengths and weaknesses?
5. What negative things come to your mind daily? All of them.
6. What was your childhood like? In detail.
7. What past events do you think about all the time?
8. What do you worry about in the future?
9. What is blocking you from working towards your goals?
10. Who are you angry at? Who are you blaming?
11. Who do you judge and what do you judge them for?
12. What do you love doing that you could do happily every day?
13. What do you hate doing and never want to do?
14. What does your average day look like? Describe it from when you wake up until you go to sleep.
15. Who are three people you admire and why?
16. Who are three people you despise and why?
17. Choose one of each character traits that best describe you:


Logical | Intuitive - Masculine | Feminine - Disciplined | Undisciplined




Sensible | Silly - Organized | Disorganized - Shy | Outgoing - Nature | City




Playful | Serious - Healthy | Unhealthy - Morning person | Night person




Science | Religion - Giving | Selfish - Think about the past | Think about the future




Loud | Quiet

18. What four-letter result did you get from your personality test?


I - Introverted, quiet and reserved | E - Extroverted, loud and outgoing




N - Intuitive, random and no rules | S - Structure, predictability and rules




F - Feeling and emotional | T - Thinking, logical and rational




P - Perceiving and indecisive | J - Judging and decisive

The only way to achieve your dreams is by becoming a new identity which will have the motivation, drive and desire to maintain a healthy lifestyle free of self- sabotage.

When I look back at myself how I was 5, 10, 20, 30 years ago, it feels like I don’t even know who that person was…

In my almost 40 years of life, I went through several major transformations every few years.

I don’t think I was aware of that change that much… all I knew was, that whatever I was doing at a time, it didn’t work for me, so I had to change.

I needed to feel worthy so that I could start treating myself better. I needed the ability to feel balanced so I could control myself and stop the self-sabotage.

And every time my new identity doesn’t serve me or if it’s holding me back in any way, I just create a new one.

The gap between your current situation and your dream life is probably quite big but it won’t be once you become the type of person who can achieve those dreams with ease.

Answer these questions right now to define the new identity which you want to become:

Welcome to your Developing new identity worksheet

Your full name.
1. How would you describe the new version of yourself necessary to effortlessly achieve all of your dreams and goals?
2. What skills and strengths does this new identity need to have to effortlessly execute your dreams and achieve them with ease?
3. What weaknesses is this new identity free of that your current one possesses that might be holding you back from achieving your goals? Not just any or all weakness, only the ones that cause a problem.
4. What good habits does this new identity have that your current one does not?
5. What fears is this new identity free of that your current one possesses?
6. How does this new identity present herself? What does she look like?
7. What judgments is this new identity free of that the current one possesses?
8. What traits does this new identity have? Example: balanced, fit, healthy, powerful, smart, classy... Really set the standard high. Then describe what the average day looks like for this new identity.
9. Describe the things this new identity loves doing and has an appetite for that the current identity hates and avoids at all costs.

When you grow into this new person, achieving your dreams will not be a dream anymore.

It will be the lowest standard for this new person.

And that is how you close the gap between the person you are right now and the person you want to become with your dreams.

The difference is that this time your observer (logical brain) will be in charge of your actions instead of your old character (automated irrational brain).

Once you become this new identity, all the things that seem difficult and painful right now will become your new daily automated habits that you will enjoy because they will be effortless.

And in our next lesson, we will go through how to Design your future and how to get rid of your old identity (that doesn’t serve you) for good.

Thank you for completing this lesson, don’t forget to do your Homework and implement what you have learned today.

Homework:

Welcome to your Mindset & Body Coaching Lesson 11

1. Your full name

2. Did you complete today's coaching lesson? If not, why not?

3. Did you exercise today? If not, why not?

4. Did all of your food choices make you feel satisfied today? If they didn't, how can you do better next time?

5. Did you binge today (eat an insane amount of food in one sitting)? If you did, what did you binge on and how much did you eat? If you didn't, go to question 10. 

6. If you binged, do you know why? What foods are you trying to restrict or control? What was the conversation in your head? What emotions did you feel before the binge? And how did they affect your binge?
7. How can you change that conversation in your head next time? What habits can you change to help you move forward? And how can you manage your emotions better next time instead of eating?
8. How did you feel after the binge?
9. What strategies did you use to help you move on? And how long did it take you to move on?
10. What improvements can you celebrate today?

11. Do you have any questions regarding today’s lesson?

12. How do you feel after completing it?