Mindset and body coaching to overcome emotional eating

LESSON 13

Hi, guys. Lucia Veracruz here, and welcome to week 5 and Lesson 13 of our Mindset and body coaching program. Today we will talk about Synchronicity and confirmation bias and My personal daily mindset training, routines and habits.

In our last lesson, we worked on designing the future you want and we covered some strategies on how to get rid of your old identity.

Today I want to explain what is Synchronicity and confirmation bias and how it affects what you attract in your life and I will also show you exactly what I do every day to stay balanced, healthy, motivated and energetic.

What we cover today summary:

  1. Synchronicity and confirmation bias
  2. My personal daily mindset training, routines and habits

Synchronicity and confirmation bias

Have you ever been in a situation, where you thought about something out of ordinary and then you spoke to someone who was thinking about the same thing as you?

Or that you thought of someone and then you would bump into them or they would call you out of the blue?

Is that a chance or a coincidence?

All coincidence is chanced coincidence, but not all chanced coincidence is a meaningful coincidence.

If a coincidence is meaningful and it transmits some kind of message or information for the observer, this is synchronicity.

Synchronicity is the simultaneous occurrence of events that appear significantly related but have no discernible causal connection.

A meaningful coincidence between subjective experience and external reality that could not be explained by cause-and-effect.

However, from an objective standpoint synchronicity is simply a coincidence.

Regardless of how meaningful it might be for the observer, for other people, there is no such connection because the meaning is derived from the feelings, thoughts, and actions it inspires in the observer.

Simply said, it is when you start seeing or hearing things that you think about or are interested in.

For example, when you decided to have a baby, suddenly you started to see pregnant women everywhere but prior to that you wouldn’t even notice them.

And once you had a baby, there were mums with babies everywhere.

Or if you wanted to buy a particular car, suddenly you would see that car everywhere…

“Synchronicity is an ever present reality for those who have eyes to see.” Carl Jung

When synchronicity happens, it creates an impression, that there is an invisible hand that guides us towards something we think about or want to make our life easier.

So we should be aware of it and use it to our advantage because it offers us an opportunity to test our choices and find out whether we are on the right track or not.

Ultimately, synchronicity is when multiple signs focus our attention on a path.

For example, if you think that people are always trying to rip you off or cheat you then that is what you will experience.

On the other hand, if you think that you always attract honest and kind people, then that is what you will experience.

Confirmation bias

We would like to think that we make decisions based on logical and objective interpretations.

However, in most cases, this is not what we do because of the way our brain processes information.

As humans our brains are subject to limitations.

The brain uses filters and shortcuts to optimize the processing of the enormous amount of information we are exposed to every day and for that reason we all experience Confirmation bias.

What is Confirmation bias?

Confirmation bias is the tendency to filter, search for, interpret, favor, and recall information in a way that confirms one’s pre-existing beliefs.

The human tendency to selectively gather, process and remember information in order to confirm our assumptions and preconceptions whether they are true or not.

It will make you do 3 different things:

  1. Selective exposure– when we test our beliefs in a one-sided way.
  2. Different interpretation– when we interpret information depending on what we believe in.
  3. Selective recall– when we remember things that are beneficial for us or for what we believe.

We are constantly looking for reassurance of our values and beliefs.

Contradictions cause discomfort, so we prefer not to challenge our beliefs even if we are exposed to evidence against it.

It’s like our belief is immune to logic.

So we often decide which facts we want to hear and which facts we want to disregard.

When we hear information that we don’t agree with, we don’t even let the brain process it and we disregard it automatically because information by itself doesn’t take into account our emotions, desires and motives.

The research also shows that the more intelligent we are, the more likely we are to change the information at will which means that we tend to use our intelligence not to find out the truth but to change the information in order to confirm our beliefs.

That is why if we want to grow and change, we should keep an open mind and always question everything.

For example, this is where “First impressions” of someone really count, because they will make our brain search for, filter and remember all the information that will confirm what our first impression of someone was and disregard everything else.

So the information we learn first about the person shapes our understanding of them afterward.

Like there are some people who think that the Kardashians are just dumb pretty girls and then there are some who may think that they are quite smart because they made millions.

Same as some people love Donald Trump and think of him as a smart businessman and some absolutely hate him who think he is a fraud.

There are a ton of people who believe that Michael Jackson molested children and then there are those who believed he was innocent.

Then what happens is we start looking for and finding evidence to prove what we believe is true seeing tons of articles on social media, magazines, seeing videos on YouTube and on the tv, hearing about it on the radio and meeting people who agree with us.

That is confirmation bias.

It’s whatever belief we hold in our mind we tend to go out and find more information to support that belief.

How does this relate to emotional eating?

These two things can either serve us massively and really help us achieve whatever we want in life, or they can really make us suffer.

Here’s the thing, no matter which side we are on, both sides will have some convincing facts to prove that they are right.

But they both are not willing to acknowledge the facts that the other side has against their belief.

They experience synchronicity and perceive reality the way they believe it to be true.

That applies to everything in the world, like the vegetarians vs meat eaters, vaccinators vs anti-vaccine, fit people vs unfit people, etc…

Whatever we believe to be true, we will only look for evidence that supports it, and we will reject evidence that is against it.

Just by thinking about the desired outcome, and the actions that are necessary to achieve that desired outcome, we’re using synchronicity and confirmation bias to our advantage.

And we will start seeing those results everywhere which will confirm our belief that it is possible to achieve!

However, if our mind is set on a negative and we believe that no matter what actions we take, we cannot change or achieve our dreams then with synchronicity, that is what we will see everywhere, and by confirmation bias, we will collect evidence to confirm that we are right.

We experience feedback which reinforces our belief that we are going to fail.

Whatever we say to ourselves is likely to be true now as we start to build up this feedback loop.

Setting our goals about what we want to achieve in life exponentially improves our ability to achieve it.

If we start believing that we are going to be amazing at something, then we are much more likely to make that come true.

My personal daily mindset training, routines and habits

I’m going to show you my mindset training, routines and habits, which I do every morning and every night to get my mind into a state, so that I can be balanced, motivated, fit, healthy and make the most of this life so I can show my kids how to achieve the same.

Click here for my Daily mindset training and affirmations.

I am showing you this so you can check out mine and then create your own based on your goals and dreams.

Make sure you do this and repeat the affirmations first thing in the morning and the last thing at night every day for 3 months, it is one of the most important tasks of the program.

It takes approx a month to develop a new habit but it takes around 3 months to develop a new lifestyle so make sure you keep “exercising” your brain daily for the next 90 days so you don’t slip back to your ‘old ways’.

Just think about how many years of repetition it took you to turn your old habits into automated actions until you did them without thinking…

If you do these affirmations every day twice a day with all the other strategies you learned for the next 12 weeks, your brain will be programmed to do and achieve everything you want effortlessly.

So here is how to do it by creating 4 sections:

  1. Things to remember to program the brain:

Write down things that are important to remember. Things you learned in the program and you don’t want to forget. If you were taking notes while going through the program, you can use them or click here to see the Program summary.

2. Vision board:

This is where you put your goals and dreams and things, people and quotes which inspire you, using pictures. Be bold and courageous, create your vision board as if anything is possible and the sky is the limit!

3. Achievements:

Here you can put pictures of your achievements to remind yourself how far you have come and what you have accomplished. This is to remind you every day to be proud of yourself (instead of focusing on negatives).

4. Your story:

This is where you write your story (turning negative experiences into something positive) in order to create a positive future. Add pictures if you can find some with captions to it. And your last caption can be successfully completing All for mums Mindset & body coaching program.

5. Declaration:

Write a Declaration about what it is that you want to achieve. Imagine you are writing your future, a story about yourself that you want to be true. Once again the sky is the limit, nothing is impossible!

6. New identity:

Describe the new identity that you want to become in detail. What will be your character traits, things you will do, what shape are you going to be in, what are you going to wear, hair, makeup and jewelry. Also, describe your achievements and list your mentors, people you look up to that inspire you.

7. Short term goals:

Describe your short term goals to direct you where are you heading in the near future. You can split them into general goals, health and fitness goals, personal and behavior goals and remind yourself of your new unquestionable standards.

8. Affirmations:

Write your affirmations in as much detail as possible covering every area of your life that you want to improve and keep in harmony and balance.

9. Daily tracking sheet:

Make sure you fill out your daily tracking sheet every single day for 12 weeks in order to develop new lifestyle habits and change into an improved version of yourself that can achieve your goals and dreams.

10. Download a voice recorder app on your phone and record yourself reading it.

I divided mine into 4 sections (1. Things to remember to program the brain, 2. Declaration, 3. New identity and short term goals, 4. Affirmations) and recorded them separately in case I got distracted with the kids.

Mine take approx. 5-7 min each so 25-30 minutes in total.

Then when you wake up and before you go to sleep, listen to your affirmations and look at your vision board every day twice a day.

*Ditch the cable headphones (I have put up with them for a while but they were annoying me) and get yourself a pair of wireless headphones, then you can listen to them anytime anywhere, hands-free (no excuses).

You’ve got to remind yourself of everything you learned daily so you don’t forget and fall back into your old ways.

Remind yourself of what you want to achieve and who you are becoming…

When you listen to your affirmations and look at your vision board imagine you have already achieved them.

Then track your performance every day for the next 4 weeks until it becomes a habit and things start to change for better.

You want to really put some effort into this, make it like the sky is the limit, you’ll be amazed how much of it you will achieve!

When you keep hearing this about yourself and you are saying it as if it has already happened, it will be programming your brain.

When your brain starts to believe that it is you, you will have a confirmation bias and then synchronicity will start to happen.

Then when you can see that picture in your mind clearly let the positive emotions run through your body.

In order to program the mind fully it can’t be just a thought, it needs an image and you need to feel the emotions with it because your mind uses the image, it uses the thought, and it also uses the emotions.

When you get all three of those things together, your brain thinks that it is real.

You can write your own affirmations, but design them so that you say the statement, and then you say how you feel.

The only people who don’t succeed are the people who don’t do the work and give up!

If you want to achieve anything in life, then you must do the work.

It’s really simple.

And next week we will learn about The rules of averages and Reward-based learning by positive reinforcement and How to manage urges.

Thank you for completing this lesson, don’t forget to do your Homework and implement what you have learned today.

Homework:

Welcome to your Mindset & Body Coaching Lesson 13

1. Your full name

2. Did you complete today's coaching lesson? If not, why not?

3. Did you exercise today? If not, why not?

4. Did all of your food choices make you feel satisfied today? If they didn't, how can you do better next time?

5. Did you binge today (eat an insane amount of food in one sitting)? If you did, what did you binge on and how much did you eat? If you didn't, go to question 10. 

6. If you binged, do you know why? What foods are you trying to restrict or control? What was the conversation in your head? What emotions did you feel before the binge? And how did they affect your binge?
7. How can you change that conversation in your head next time? What habits can you change to help you move forward? And how can you manage your emotions better next time instead of eating?
8. How did you feel after the binge?
9. What strategies did you use to help you move on? And how long did it take you to move on?
10. What improvements can you celebrate today?

11. Do you have any questions regarding today’s lesson?

12. How do you feel after completing it?

13. Did you make your own Daily mindset training and affirmations print out and audio? If not, why not and when will you do it?