Hi guys, in today’s training I wanted to talk about what causes emotional and binge eating.
If you have ever tried fixing this problem by doing therapy, you may have been told that:
- You have an eating disorder,
- It is not your fault,
- The root cause may be your emotional state and difficulty to deal with everyday challenges.
And apparently, once you are able to cope without having to use food to numb your feelings, you will be healed.
Or if you just stay away from the trigger foods like sugar and white flour you are more likely to stop binging.
But if that was really the case, the chances of recovering from binge eating would be very slim.
Healing emotions doesn’t heal emotional eating directly
Staying away from the trigger foods is almost impossible looking at long term especially with the kids around.
And even a person who is really well balanced and emotionally stable may have some bad days on occasions.
Would that mean, that they will go and binge on that day?
When I heard about this “solution” for the first time, I was really depressed about it.
I thought that meant that I will never be able to be “normal” again.
And what I had ahead of me was a lifetime of worrying and obsessing about food and not being able to resist my urges to binge.
Simply because I had a “disorder” and this was just the way I was…
Born with it…
But after overcoming:
- nearly 20 years of binge eating,
- and years of research, numerous treatments and coaching,
I have finally figured out a better way.
It is important to note that if you are suffering from depression, anxiety or trauma, then my coaching is not meant to replace help from qualified professionals or to be used as medical advice.
If you have a health condition, a mental or psychological disorder you are advised to consult with your health care provider as eating disorders can have serious health consequences.
Ok so let’s start by understanding what emotional eating is.
What is Emotional Eating?
Emotional eating is when we use large amounts of food to disconnect from our emotions thinking that we can temporarily escape from feelings of sadness, boredom, stress, etc…
Yet as soon as we stop eating, we experience more intense feelings of guilt and shame.
Often our emotions can trigger the overeating, but so can the binging trigger our emotions.
Learning to manage our emotions especially after a lifetime of habits, beliefs and personality traits may take a while.
So, it is crucial to be patient, understanding and compassionate with ourselves while we are learning new ways to cope.
On the other hand, working on our emotions will positively contribute to our healing indirectly.
Improving our emotional state will put us on the right path so we can “reconnect” with ourselves and practice mindfulness.
The more we practice being present, curious and aware of our emotions, the easier it will be to work out how to handle them.
#1 Cause Of Binging
However, regardless of our emotional state, the number one cause of binging is really just the URGES TO BINGE.
Without the urges to binge, we would be completely free of binging no matter how tough our days may be.
And me and my clients are living examples.
Even though on some days we “cope” better than on others and occasionally we still eat sugar and white flour, we still don’t overeat like we used to because the urges are gone for good.
Why do we get the urges to binge?
The urges to binge happen for two reasons:
#1 Restricting or depriving ourselves physically, mentally or emotionally.
Even if you think that you are not on a diet, but you feel shame, guilt and disappointment around food and your weight, means that you are restricting yourself.
And this form of restriction always puts us in survival mode.
And while we are in survival mode, our brain drives us to eat not understanding that there is no scarcity of food…
We are only restricting because we don’t want to eat unhealthy so we can lose weight.
When we restrict ourselves from eating certain types of food or amounts of food, we are telling our brain that those foods will not be available.
So next time we see the very thing we restrict, we get this intense desire to eat large amounts of it because we know we won’t be able to have it again.
#2 Our habits ingrained in our brain
A very good example for this learning to tie our shoelaces.
While we are learning we are required to pay attention, focus and practice.
And by repeating this process it becomes effortless and automated.
It is exactly the same with your eating habits.
If you are still overeating then you are most likely dieting and binging on autopilot.
So if you want to change those binging habits, you are going to have to pay attention, focus and practice the new habits until they become effortless.
This is called developing new neural pathways in the brain which require focus and repetition, so they become automated.
All For Mums Mindset & Body Coaching
And that is exactly what we teach our clients in our All for mums Mindset and body coaching program.
We work step by step on completely eliminating the urges to overeat to stop binging once and for all.
And we do this by working through all the aspects affecting emotional eating physically, emotionally and mentally.
Free Training Video
And if you feel like you need more help to overcome your struggles with food, you can click on the following link to access a Free training video.
Here I explain:
- The biggest mistakes “emotional eaters” make when trying to change,
- The two things those who succeed have in their lives,
- Simple, proven 4 step system that you can start implementing today.
You will also be able to schedule a free strategy call with me personally at the end of that video.
Thank you so much for reading today’s blog, until next time.
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